On June 22, Jeff Loeffelholz was subjected to a humiliating dressing down after 22 years as a standby for the Broadway production of Chicago. One week later, he took his own life.
Like others of my generation, I was raised inside “the man box,” which insists that boys don’t cry and men don’t complain. I believed my story was thoroughly mundane. “Suck it up, go about your business and don’t go looking for sympathy. No one respects a man who appears weak or needy.”
From stalking and verbal harassment to rape and domestic violence, victims far too often believe they are responsible for the other person’s damaging behavior. Why do we blame ourselves when we are the victims of verbal or physical violence?
INNER MISSION: Failing Well: What To Do When You DON’T Get The Job Psychotherapist and performer Bill Harrison’s column on life as an artist. There’s plenty of advice out there on how to succeed at auditions, from Michael Shurtleff’s classic Audition to our own Jane Brody’s recently published Actor’s Business...